Joya Sarkar

Lives in United Kingdom Born on February 14, 1961 · Female
Joya Sarkar
Joya Sarkar
To do nothing, we need to first be nothing - Mooji.
Ramana Maharshi says there are 3 classes of aspirants. The most advanced realise the Self as soon as they are told about its real nature. They dont n...View More
Joya Sarkar
Essential Duality - the lower discriminating mind is used to help others to clarify issues for those on the level of duality, the Higher non discriminating Mind is used for us.
We cant prematurely aban...View More
Joya Sarkar
The nature of the human mind is to discriminate. When the ego is dissolved, it merges with the Heart and becomes the Heart-mind instead of the ego-mind. This is when there is discrimination without pe...View More
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Graham Stewart
A goal to strive for.. <3
rylan
"A goal to strive for.."...
yes, it is, both but neither, the relationship between, the higher duality, sure, okay, i like that Joya, and the lower duality is then when we deny the aspect of us that is the expression of our higher self which invalidates the concept of the relationship between and so ...View More
Graham Stewart
I hear you rylan, it is just a form of words... For me, there is a journey to be had, so there is a striving, the end or actualisation is the goal. <3
Stacey Sarakinis
And to actualize is to become REAL! We are on the same journey as the Velveteen Rabbit! Up until that moment are we only a figment of "someone's" imagination? Words is weird, ya they are :P <3
rylan
hi Graham...
i wonder about the goal part, the desire for a rigid absolute goal of some type, this feels like a flow of false/dark fear energy to me...
what if purpose within desire is to manifest joy/love as we tour the all-ness that we are...
just a simple quest designed to take eternity to manifest ...View More
Graham Stewart
I guess I am as real as I can be at this particular moment, maybe today or tomorrow I will learn something new which will take me a step closer to my 'REAL' self.. :haha: Much love Stacey.. :001_tongue:
Pi
Down the hole we go, there's no turning back and where we stop, no body knows....:)
Graham Stewart
Rylan, I can only be where I am at this present moment in time. We all go through periods of challenge, be it 'dark fear' or 'false fear', whatever. Until I get to that point where I realise that my fears are unjustified then I keep going with my quest/goal. I operate from a base of love and joy,...View More
Christian Wiese
Life heals Graham ... so keep on doing what you have been doing <3
Jaana from Finland
[x=127100]Graham Stewart[/x] oh wow...that phase is so intense! You are jumping from groupchakras to individual ones and it always comes with fears and pain.Blessed be...it will be ok, just hold on.
rylan
"I can only be where I am at this present moment in time"...
why, why not, why only option is an eternal dance within awareness as a solo focus of desire within purpose...
why the limit, why limit what could be, why limit what could be the nature of what is...
sure, if we assume that this is true, if w...View More
Graham Stewart
Rylan, what is it you suggest I do?
rylan
okay, Graham...
lots of start points...
basic concept is always look at everything from at least two logical perspectives that are different enough to give contrast...
one option, start by learning to split your focus of intent within purpose within desire where you look at things from both the inten...View More
Joya Sarkar
The masters say thought is natural and not a problem in itself, not something you need to get rid of, but thinking is not natural. Thinking is when you identify with the thought, when you identify wit...View More
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Joya Sarkar
Thoughts when they are of a practical nature serve the Self. As thinking subsides, the mind merges with the Heart, which is the Buddha Mind or the Big Mind. This mind is practical and a useful servant of the Self.
Joya Sarkar
We are not equal, we are One.- Mooji
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Mark Fullarton
❤️
Joya Sarkar
Love is misunderstood to be emotion. Actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.- David HawkinsAwareness transcends time and transcends the ...View More
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Mark Fullarton
oh yes angel <3
Joya Sarkar
GOODness cannot be found in 'I-me'. It is GODness in the 'I-I' that gives light to the world.- MoojiSo long as you have a mind, ie 'I-me', I me and mine, goodness cannot be found. When you identify ...View More
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Joya Sarkar
The ignorant strive to control life. Life reveals itself to the wise.- MoojiThis means, let Existence decide, let the moment decide, let the energies decide, rather than splitting yourself in choice.
Joya Sarkar
We are not the thinker of thoughts nor doer of actions.BUT, if you identify with the body and personality, then you are responsible for looking after yourself. However, if you identify with Conscious...View More
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Joya Sarkar
'Do nothing!' To offer this advice, you must first 'be' nothing.- MoojiSo long as we have a mind, we need to 'become' ripe. We need to go on a journey from the mind to the Heart and Being. Only as tho...View More
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Luv ~ 11:11
"Be Nothing but the vessel that carries the Light" :sun:
Joya Sarkar
Effort is required to become. Effortlessness is required to Be.- MoojiThe mind is in a state of becoming. The evolution of the mind or journey of the mind takes effort. But once you reach the Heart, y...View More
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I just happened to get a bumper sticker in the mail the other day that says, "Be still and know". I put it up on my fridge as a reminder. :)
Joya Sarkar
Thoughts will arise. This in itself does not constitute thinking. It is only when the thought 'I' engages with them that psychological thinking and the thinker are born.- MoojiThis is what it means ...View More
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When the world is seen, the Self is not seen. When the Self is seen, the world is not seen.- MoojiThe world is the gross 'form' of mind (ego). When you see there is an ego, the Self has not yet been...View More
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If you think you are a person - forget yourself.If you think you are the Being - remember yourself.When you know you are Awareness - there is nothing to remember or forget.- MoojiTo forget yourself is...View More
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Joya Sarkar
The one who is without desire, without expectation and without identity, is called the Buddha.- MoojiTo be without desire, means that desires are not intrusive or disturbing. To be without expectatio...View More
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Luv ~ 11:11
"I need nothing, I expect nothing, I am nothing and everything"
"I Am that I Am" <3
Joya Sarkar
Be still and know the 'I am'. This is the meaning of Be still and know that I am God - I am, is God.
Joya Sarkar
The one medicine for everything is to know your Self. You have to awaken to your true position as the formless witness of all that appears. When this recognition occurs, a great sickness is over, a ...View More
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Joya Sarkar
When the dark cloud of ego fates away, that which is unveiled, gives light to the world.Mooji
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Infinity
<3 <3 <3 Yessss & Yipppeeee..!
Mark Fullarton
<3 <3
Joya Sarkar
The universe is playing on your behalf. Every move is tailor-made for you. Even slipping on a banana skin - all is for your awakening.Mooji
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Joya Sarkar
All of God's gifts are great. Even if God gives you poverty. There is a wealth in poverty and a poverty in wealth. Contemplate. Discern. Confirm.Mooji
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Joya Sarkar
The mind is the devotee of the Heart. The Heart is the Guru of the mind.Mooji
Joya Sarkar
Mind presents optionsHeart offers recognition.Mind imaginesHeart reveals.Mind straysHeart stays.Mind thinksHeart knows.Mind is becomingHeart is being.Mind introduces creature comfortsHeart introduces ...View More
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rylan
the heart/right brain/intuitive can give us an awareness portal into any possibility within free will...
the mind can do what it is meant to do, which is test everything...
we are the relationship between in denial of the between...
Joya Sarkar
True Love is so far away from the limited field of interrelated opposites, from good and evil, you and me, this and that, heaven and hell, right and wrong, and life and death. Love transcends all.Mooj...View More
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Luv ~ 11:11
<3
Alfred Miller
<3
Joya Sarkar
Only the hand that erases can write the true thing.Meister EckhartWe need to erase the past, erase karma, erase the ego, until there are no traces left. This is the magic of meditation. When there are...View More
Joya Sarkar
Enlightenment is absolute co-operation with the inevitable.Anthony de MellorThis is when willfulness is replaced by a sense of flow. When we feel the direction of events, we feel the right thing to do...View More
Luv ~ 11:11
The mind and ego want to navagate but it's the Soul that knows how to just let the river carry them and flow to where they are headed. <3
Joya Sarkar
Adyashanti says there are 3 levels of Enlightenment. Enlightenment of the gut, Enlightenment of the mind and Enlightenment of the Heart. Enlightenment of the gut is the aim of Zen. You can have a very...View More
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Majid Etemad
<3
rylan
cool, that fits, maybe not totally crazy...
a persona level of awareness that is mind, in relationship with a persona level of awareness that is gut, that is sometimes/increasingly blessed with a persona level of awareness of yes nice, heart...
yes, what feels like to be inside me, two subparts that ...View More
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Joya Sarkar
The truly sacred Love is to love what is rather than what could be. This love liberates 'what is'.
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Joya Sarkar
Sitting still is a way of falling in love with the world and everything in it.- Pico Iyer
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Cynthia Petro
LOVE IT!
Joya Sarkar
If, in the deepest place within you, you want and desire Truth ABOVE ALL ELSE, even though you go astray in a thousand different ways, you will find yourself somehow, again and again, being brought ba...View More
Joya Sarkar
We begin by BECOMING somebody, then we grow to Being Nobody, then we are complete and Perfect when we are Being Everybody.
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:grouphug:
Joya Sarkar
BEING Nobody is the Small Enlightenment, it means you are empty of independent existence, you are no longer the separate ego agent, the doer. BEING Everybody is the Big Enlightenment, where you see the Universe as your Intimate Self.
Joya Sarkar
Evolution is the Law of Life. Unity is the Law of God. Numbers is the Law of the Universe.
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rylan
evolution/unity/numbers, a trinity of laws, interesting...
agree...
Joya Sarkar
Zen pretty much comes down to three things - everything changes; everything is connected; pay attention.Jane Hirshfield
Joya Sarkar
When you touch one thing with deep awareness, you touch everything.Thich Nhat Hanh
Joya Sarkar
To make judgements about Reality, our minds must be calm and we need to take a holistic view, take into account the whole Being, the whole of humanity.
Joya Sarkar
Love and compassion dont just benefit others, they help open and keep the Heart open. This makes us receptive to God's Grace, which allows His Peace and Love and Bliss to enter and irreversible progre...View More
Joya Sarkar
This is Bhakti Yoga, Yoga of the Heart.
Vinod Verma
<3 Navda Bhakti
Joya Sarkar
Emptiness doesnt mean nothingness, it means empty of independent existence. We are not separate ego agents and must not identify with the mind or emotions or body, these make up the ego or small I. Th...View More
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Jim
:yes:
rylan
"empty of independent existence"...
so that implys our base state is the relationship between...
both but neither, honor both, but yes, be totally attached to neither, be empty of independent existence, yes...
the independently existing, within a yang dominate mindset, selective identification, within ...View More
Joya Sarkar
If you see yourself as the body, it follows that you see yourself as a separate ego agent, which is to see yourself as the doer. When you see yourself as the doer, your actions and their fruits bind y...View More
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Vinod Verma
:rainbow: so highly beautiful message!!!
Joya Sarkar
If equal affection cannot be, let the more loving be me.W.H. Auden
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The craving for fruit will render all spiritual disciplines fruitless.Sai BabaWe need to offer up the fruits of our work and spiritual disciplines to God for blessing and to invest it with perfection ...View More
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Mr. Happy
Sai Ram
Joya Sarkar
If we are attached to the fruits, that entangles us in bondage and creates ego. It serves only the body and the lower mind. If we renounce the fruits, we free ourselves from entanglements and bondage and the energies rise up the spine and awaken the Heart. It means our priority is the Heart rathe...View More
Joya Sarkar
We need high integrity to see happiness and goodness in the world.Michael Roach, Diamond Cutter
Joya Sarkar
In the end, forgiveness simply means never putting another person out of our heart.Jack KornfieldEven if it means not putting oneself in harm's way again and not having anything to do with the person ...View More
Joya Sarkar
Enlightenment is intimacy with all things.Dogen
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It is to see the Universe as your intimate companion, to see the Universe as your most intimate Self.
Joya Sarkar
To be intimate with God
Infinity
Intimacy yes <3 <3 <3
Joya Sarkar
If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.Dalai Lama
Joya Sarkar
God has to be temporarily cruel in order to be permanently kind.Meher Baba
Joya Sarkar
A mind that is fast is sick. A mind that is slow is sound. A mind that is still is divine.Meher Baba
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Joya Sarkar
Equanimity is the only armour you need.
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Joya Sarkar
When we have discrimination in us we suffer. We compare ourselves with others and develop complexes of superiority or inferiority. We should be able to look at life without labelling things high or lo...View More
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Vinod Verma
Nature is flowing eternally as the mystic Acceptance of all like the Ocean is accepting all rivers from every parts of Universe.
Hence Acepatance in total is quite free from any differences. This is true thoughts of human beings which lead to pure happiness :butterfly::butterfly:
Joya Sarkar
That is right. Acceptance is transcendence. This is the same as going beyond discrimination. Discrimination is dualistic.
Joya Sarkar
There are 2 kinds of desires. The lower and the Higher. The lower desires make us craven, bound to cravings, obsessions, addictions, compulsions, obsessions. These are egoic desires. Desires of the mi...View More
Vinod Verma
:butterfly::butterfly:
Joya Sarkar
The small enlightenment is Emptiness, which is freedom from suffering, freedom from the ego/mind. The big Enlightenment is Fullness, which is to lose all limitations and be filled with Life, infinite ...View More
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Vinod Verma
:rainbow:
Joya Sarkar
Giving up the little I, the ego, is the true meaning of renunciation. It does not mean running away from the hearth and home into the jungle. It means sublimating every thought, word and deed as an of...View More
Shanti
Thank you for your heartfelt sharing...
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Barb Peterson
Yes indeed indeed, thank YOU dear awesome Joya for all you gift us with!!! XXXXXX
Joya Sarkar
When you love someone, the best you can offer is your presence.Nhat Hanh
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The way we live our daily lives is what most effects the situation of the world. If we can change our daily lives, then we can change our governments and can change the world. Our president and govern...View More
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Joya Sarkar
Even if you only stop and focus on your breathing for a few breaths, or for a minute or two, its very valuable.Nhat Hanh
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Emotions are external events. They are triggered by externals. It is the body's reaction to the mind. Feelings are internal events. They come from the Heart. These come only after the mind has been dr...View More
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Joya Sarkar
Emotions make up the ego along with thought. They are attachments which bind.
rylan
hi Joya...
so confuses me some of what you say, just so outside of my perception of my reality as a composite awareness, like you are trying so hard to transmute darkness in light, just seems to me you are working within a mindset model designed to keep you from that, seems easier to junk the old mod...View More
Joya Sarkar
Emotions reflect external "reality", which is not really Reality. We see Reality when we attain a state of Being, when we are Present, when the mind is silent and the Heart is active. Emotions do not reflect Reality.
Joya Sarkar
Bless you for persisting. It is really the difference between duality and nonduality. The emotions represent duality. The Heart represents non-duality. Duality binds. Life, Love, Bliss, Power and Knowledge come from non-duality, from Presence and Awareness.
rylan
to me emotions and feeling happen in the mindset sub-part/space/portal/persona that is in shared awareness space, awareness space we all share...
what we tend to label, or what we seems to have redefined, as thinking, awareness within the land of label boxes, becomes a sub-part of who we are that hap...View More
Joya Sarkar
Feelings transcend time and space, transcend the mind and emotions. Time is regrets about the past and worries about the future.
Alfred Miller
[x=184959]Joya Sarkar[/x] I agree with your meme. <3
davidWELLENS
CONFUSED
The FEELINGS of
LOVE/JOY/PEACE
are not to be
confused with
the emotions of
fear/sorrow/conflict
rylan
"really the difference between duality and non-duality"...
yes, agree, this is a difference, i do not support this determinedness to banish duality, smells of darkness/noise to me, how did the poor label get such an evil rap, seems much more straight forward to accept it is aspect of what we are abo...View More
davidWELLENS
The 'fruits' of duality have left us with the fear/sorrow/conflict dynamic. Non-duality offers a bit more with less . . . :)
rylan
well seems the belief in Non-duality, or fear of duality, has been with us a long time, and seems like within that time we have experienced fear/sorrow/conflict dynamic in a massive way...
seems this duality issue is old, seems like the belief in non-duality is the established norm, sure we play wit...View More
Joya Sarkar
Empaths - the alchemy of the Heart.A good practice for empaths is Tonglen. This is when you pray to take in and absorb all the suffering and negativity of humanity. However, when you absorb it you don...View More
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rylan
if awareness at its core is a ebbing/flowing energy body, then what sets the stage for this ebb and flow...
the label, opposite, comes to mind, as in they ebb and flow between opposites, ebb and flow between the opposites of yin/yang...
but seems the label tends to be demonized so it can not be accept...View More
davidWELLENS
RELINQUISH
We are to
LOVE our story
not to embrace it
but to
RELINQUISH it
Luv ~ 11:11
Wow! Such wisdom on here!
Love you all straight from my heart :beatingheart:
Luv ~ 11:11
[x=55769]Valerie-Anne_Empath[/x] ,
See if any of this can explain emotions <3
Stacey Sarakinis
@rylan would it not be the person that sits in bliss that would NEED something to "balance" or "ground" the person in this reality? By using the "suffering of the world" it would be impersonal and easier to transmute in to peace and love for the suffering world and also good for the "conductor" in ...View More
rylan
[x=49659]Stacey Sarakinis[/x] , hi...
makes total sense, i mostly agree here with what Joya says, the below the words part anyway, the signal within the story line...
i just feel/see/think the choice of story line reinforces the current model within what is thinking, that seems to me anyway, is full o...View More
Stacey Sarakinis
[x=169463]rylan[/x] AMEN BROTHER!! We need the new story line...but in owning the "old" and relinquishing its POWER we can rewrite the story. Rather like those whom forget the lessons of HISTORY end up repeating the same mistakes. Or so my experience is "if I forget where I came from on this journ...View More
Luv ~ 11:11
If we think of everything as being Energy, and energy attracts like energy , then wouldn't we want to hold our own energy in high vibration ?
So for us light workers, the best way for us to heal others is to keep our vibration high.
Am I wrong?
Luv ~ 11:11
I had someone recently tell me that we should not look at anything outside of ourself as not being perfect just the way it is. But maybe only in the dark. So maybe the only thing that the outside world needs from us is our own inner Light to shine outwards.
rylan
"owning the "old" and relinquishing its POWER we can rewrite the story"...
okay, we seem to agree at the deeper level...
consider...
major powerful thought patterns tend to be embedded within the logic of how we process our verbiage, within thinking...
words have power...
so consider how this tends to be...View More
Stacey Sarakinis
[x=87134]Luv ~ 11:11[/x] That is what I'm seeing this post as saying. Its all we individually NEED...and once found on an individual level there is a way in which we can help others and the collective to heal by using that which we were given to act as a kind of "filter" for the whole without being ...View More
Barb Peterson
"When the Heart is open you can do the work of Love, ie absorb all the suffering in the world and transmute it in the Heart without creating a pain body or ego, ie without identifying with the suffering..."namaste and carry forever on dear dear Joya!!
rylan
add this, my above comments need to be placed in the box labeled, overall agree, but feel lead to comment of some small seeming detail in the corner over here that seems important to me...
yes getting into bliss and extending this as a method of transformation, okay that has cool possibilities, now t...View More
Joya Sarkar
Emotions mask the soul. They masquerade as soul. The Heart has its counterparts. Eg Joy has an opposite, namely sorrow, so it is dualistic. Whatever is dualistic binds. Both the positive and negative EQUALLY bind. The feelings of the Heart, Bliss, Higher Love, Peace (total stillness), Compassi...View More
Joya Sarkar
The Heart is non-dualistic. Feelings of the Heart are based on irreversible balance. Once you reach the Heart progress is irreversible. Emotions by their very nature are up and down, subject to the law of reversal. There is no progress on the level of duality. Real balance comes from Emptiness,...View More
Joya Sarkar
We relinquish our story by embracing it, ie by fully feeling it and fully watching it, this then fully disidentifies with it.
rylan
oh me where to start, okay here...
"This creates stillness, which is liberation"...
well, for me stillness is lack of life force energy, the nature of who we seems to be, nature of our awareness necessitates movement, ebb and flow...
sure, yes in that, seems as we approach stillness we approach the mor...View More
Joya Sarkar
Stillness is emptiness. This is not complete without Fullness, which is a stillness FULL of infinite Love, infinite Blis, Power and knowledge, so it is not a lack of life force, but on the contrary radiant Life. Idle is not the right word. One must be fully alert and fully conscious, not sleepy a...View More
Luv ~ 11:11
Nice post [x=184959]Joya Sarkar[/x] <3
Pi
Very Nice!
Joya Sarkar
Among the great things which are to be found among us, the Being of Emptiness is the greatest.Leonardo da Vinci
Joya Sarkar
Thoughts are attachments.Witness them from your spiritual Heart.
Cindy
Be the observer <3
rylan
attachment, funny, but an attachment without which we would not be here having this shared chat...
so sure thoughts/thinking are a good servant, allows us to see/track the details within our perception of reality, gives us label boxes where we can store all these proper nouns we "need" to keep track ...View More
Joya Sarkar
Egoic thoughts are those which bind. Not all thoughts are egoic. They dont turn into ego when there is no identification, no quality of obsession, compulsive quality or addictive quality. When thoughts arise in the silence and lasting stillness of a mind grounded in the present, grounded in aware...View More
Joya Sarkar
In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight.Ram Dass
Joya Sarkar
A feeling of aversion or attachment toward something is your clue that there's work to be done.Ram Dass
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The most exquisite paradox; as soon as you give it all up, you can have it all.Ram Dass
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Joya Sarkar
We think sometimes we're only drawn to the good, but we're actually drawn to the authentic. We like people who are real more than those who hide their true selves under layers of artificial nicetiesEl...View More
Joya Sarkar
Balance is the highest sacrificeSai Baba
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rylan
balance, balance seems to lead to really good things, if this is our highest sacrifice, except for the few that fight this real hard, we should be good...
Joya Sarkar
With balance there is irreversible progress. When the emotions are still and thought ceases, there is perfect balance, then there is no further loss of energy through thought or the emotions.
rylan
interesting, the quest to make balance an absolute, balance is something that happens between two of more factors, how can it ever be an absolute, take Apophatic theology and Cataphatic theology, balance is found when honoring both, looking at our experience within awareness within a focus, not of o...View More
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The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifte...View More
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I had a huge event in my life happen about 6-7 months ago. It was hard, but forgiveness was my only cure from the heartbreak.
I have learned how to turn the page, so to speak.
I have learned how to be more in the present.
I have also learned that some of the big trials that we go through can actua...View More
Joya Sarkar
Compassion can shoulder the suffering of the entire world without feeling the slightest bit of pain.Mata AmritanandamayiEmpaths often have an emotional fall as they tune into the pain body. Real compa...View More
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[x=176853]Majid Etemad[/x] , you are absolutely right!
My husband and I went to marriage counseling last summer. I pretty much told the counselor that I was an Empath and took on the sadness of the world and I just felt like I needed to make everyone happier.
She told me these very important word...View More
Luv ~ 11:11
"Do not let the actions or emotions of others destroy your inner peace" <3
Majid Etemad
Codependency is an insidious disease because you are not like a drunk guy who is obnoxious and needs help. Codependent people are people pleasers who come cross like an angel, but they are all about fear and control. Spiritual communities are brimming with codependent people who are in denial about ...View More
Majid Etemad
[x=87134]Luv ~ 11:11[/x] :highfive:
Luv ~ 11:11
[x=176853]Majid Etemad[/x] ,
I am a classic Co-Dependent in recovery. It's a daily practice. What has helped me is realizing that others are on their very own spiritual journey and they must experience the highs in lows in life as well. If we continually try to keep them up, it will not only make ...View More
Majid Etemad
I attended a few Codependent anonymous meeting after my divorce. Their literature and members were very insightful. Actually, that motivated me to do some inner child work.
Luv ~ 11:11
I must add, it's kind of like "Tough Love". We love others enough to allow them to go through what they need to go through for their own personal growth. <3
Luv ~ 11:11
[x=176853]Majid Etemad[/x] yes! We all have inner child work to do. I realized recently that growing up with an alcoholic father had affected me more than I realized. He was never physically nor verbally abusive, but there was emotional neglect. Even though my father was physically present, he w...View More
Majid Etemad
I would love to see your childhood picture whether on here or PM. It took me long time not to cry when I looked at my baby picture. <3
Luv ~ 11:11
[x=176853]Majid Etemad[/x] I will share some of my early pics with you. I have no sad feelings at all when I look at my childhood pictures. They always make me smile. I was surrounded by Love. <3
Joya Sarkar
I too have mastered co-dependency. I used to love to take on others' karma and then spend years working it out of my system. It was only when I had had a number of breakdowns that I realized that the price I was paying to go into the problems of others to free them, was no longer acceptable. I kn...View More
Joya Sarkar
When you have a Heart, it implies you have mastered the emotions and have detachment. The energy does not reach the Heart (4th chakra) if it is stuck in the 2nd chakra (emotions). When you have a Heart, you have the Power of Love, not just a sickly sentimental type, which is the 2nd chakra.
Luv ~ 11:11
Yes! Got to move Emotions up to heart and move thoughts of the mind down to the heart.
Then everything comes straight from the heart. <3
Joya Sarkar
They say emotions mask the soul. We confuse emotions with the Heart. The Heart has tender feelings, intuitions, NOT emotions, which go up and down. When you are emotional, you are stuck in the head, which is a loveless place to be. The emotions are the 2nd chakra, the mind or intellect is the 3r...View More
Joya Sarkar
Emotions are dualistic. They go up and down and are positive and negative. The Heart is non-dualistic. It represents the Power of balance. When you reach balance, progress is irreversible. The law of reversal or the law of duality exists before you attain the balance of the true Heart.
Luv ~ 11:11
[x=184959]Joya Sarkar[/x] yes! This is why balance is so important. <3
Joya Sarkar
Balance is the highest sacrifice
- Sai Baba
Luv ~ 11:11
[x=184959]Joya Sarkar[/x],
Yes, we sacrifice more joy but balance brings us peace of mind.
I will choose Peace. :)
Joya Sarkar
When peace becomes our priority we develop a ruthless compassion that no longer indulges sickly sentimentality. We realize that consoling others is often indulging their weaknesses.
Luv ~ 11:11
[x=184959]Joya Sarkar[/x] :yes:
Joya Sarkar
A person's destiny can be changed through the power of a saint.Mata Amritanandamayi
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This Divine Master does world tours. She never converts. She initiates people from all faiths, who come to her for Darshan, the blessings from the sight of a Divine Master.
Joya Sarkar
Crying to God for five minutes is equal to one hour of meditation.Mata Amritanandamayi
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The intellect always cuts and divides like a pair of scissors. The heart sews things together and unites like a needle. The tailor uses both.Mata AmritanandamayiThe mind discerns the higher from the l...View More
Joya Sarkar
Spiritual awakening is an act of Grace. There is nothing you can do about it. You dont have to become worthy first. It can come to the sinner before it comes to the saint.Eckhart TolleEnlightenment is...View More
Joya Sarkar
So many things become beautiful when you really lookLauren Oliver
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Joya Sarkar
Write a list of all the abundance you see in your life and read it daily. Look deeply at the small things, eg clean water, a warm home, good quality food, nice clothes, inspiring books, computer conne...View More
Passer by
...and the camraderie of the SN family :grouphug:
Vinod Verma
So wonderful :sunflower: khub bhalo likheichhein aapni:rose:[x=184959]Joya Sarkar[/x]
Nick Powell
Yes, good point. And I don't worry about rats, because if the birds don't catch them, the cats will.
Joya Sarkar
Love is inner space. We gain access to this eternal dimension when we are detached, non-judgemental and have no inner resistance to life's events.
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Nick Powell
I was just thinking of this earlier yesterday. I was reminded of Siddhartha, a book by Herman Hesse, which deals with the topic of non-attachment.
Joya Sarkar
To have eyes to see, means you can see the Oneness of Life, see the Good in others, see the Divine in others, see the Beloved all around, see the Universe as your intimate companion, see the Universe ...View More
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Joya Sarkar
The horizontal is quantity, the vertical is quality. The horizontal is mind, the vertical is Love, the horizontal is surface, the vertical is depth. The horizontal is finite, the vertical is infinit...View More
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Barb Peterson
Such beautiful clarity dear dear Joya...thank YOU so abundantly!!! XXXXXXXXXX :-))))))))))))))))))))))
Joya Sarkar
Thank you for your appreciation. It warms my Heart. You are so loving and warm hearted. You show gratitude, which is a form of abundance.
Joya Sarkar
Time is the horizontal dimension of life. Eternity or the Present is the vertical dimension of Life.
Joya Sarkar
The vertical is the Kingdom of Heaven, the horizontal is the world.
Joya Sarkar
All true healing comes from the Vertical. Meditation connects us to the vertical unlike mental affirmations, which are not rooted in Being. Only that which is rooted in being is total and lasting.
Barb Peterson
Well dear dear gifted Soul, in your/my connection to gratitude, warmth, authenticity and love, yes abundance surrounds me eternally ...and I so resonate with all that be vertically inclined...thank YOU Joya as ever for your inspiring wisdom on the universal truths that are well within each of our lo...View More
Joya Sarkar
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Joya Sarkar
ABUNDANCEIt is a universal law. Abundance comes only to those who have it. Abundance and scarcity are inner states, that manifest as your reality. "For to the one who has more will be given, and fr...View More
Cynthia Petro
At first I was going to ask why do you think it is phrased that way. But now I get it, it's about faith and trust. Fear that we will not have enough MAKES it happen.
Jaana from Finland
Its about The Law of atrraction...we get what we are.
If we live as like we have 'it' it will appear
Joya Sarkar
We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.Sai Baba
Luv ~ 11:11
<3
Joya Sarkar
With forgiveness, your victim identity dissolves and your true power emerges. Instead of blaming the darkness, you bring in the light.Eckhart Tolle
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Joya Sarkar
We should serve others without any expectations whatsoever. When others throw thorns at us, we should be able to throw flowers back at them.Mata Amritanandamayi
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Luv ~ 11:11
:rose: :rose: :rose:
Joya Sarkar
The man form is higher than the angel form; of all forms it is the highest. Man is the highest being in creation, because he aspires to freedom.Paramahansa Yogananda
Joya Sarkar
Never count your faults. Just see that your love for God is deeply sincere. For God doesn't mind your imperfections: He minds your indifference.Paramahansa Yogananda
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Jim
Most wise!
Joya Sarkar
Change yourself and you have done your part in changing the worldParamahansa Yogananda
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Joya Sarkar
Balance every thought with its opposition. Because the marriage of them is the destruction of illusion.Aleister Crowley
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The Way of Mastery is to break all the rules—but you have to know them perfectly before you can do this; otherwise you are not in a position to transcend them.Aleister CrowleyWe cant go beyond somethi...View More
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Sonny Thomas
Aleister lived a very colourful life now didn't he..
Joya Sarkar
He has some fine observations and some questionable attitudes also. Take what resonates and leave the rest or try to understand his perspective. It is good to look at things from all angles.
Carl Bozeman
Or, maybe...There simply are no more rules! :) <3
Sonny Thomas
Namaste...
Joya Sarkar
Intolerance is evidence of impotence.Aleister Crowley
Sarayai
I am
So intrigued you would quote Crowley ! :happy: <3
Joya Sarkar
I have a book called Tarot mirror of the soul by Crowley. It is brilliant. He is controversial and I havent read more of his works, but when you have eyes to see, you can take things in context or skip that which doesnt resonate. Osho is very controversial, but he is also brilliant and undeniably...View More
Joya Sarkar
I normally like to promote the Masters, but others have something interesting to say. When your faith is mature, you can read far and wide and wont be unsaddled by the controversial. When your faith is weak, then even reading the masters is hazardous, as you will see contradiction everywhere.
Mr. Happy
Yes, Mr. Crowley was quite the interesting character. There is indeed quite a lot to learn from him. As You said: use what You can and leave what You can't. That's always a good rule :)
davidWELLENS
SMALL
Small
minds
live in
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Joya Sarkar
Crowley has an enlightened opinion about the devil. Like Pan, the green man, the nature god or devil, the devil has much to teach. There are images of Pan in many churches of all denominations. All knowledge of good and evil needs to be understood. We need to understand every aspect of life, the...View More
Sonny Thomas
Do you think we can take the label off of "evil".. Let's call it "free will"
Now that feels better, this can not be denied by anyone..
Joya Sarkar
A better word for good and evil is duality, which is the nature of the unconscious, discriminating mind.
Sarayai
Yes I was only 'intrigued' not negating anything and consider myself
Immensely spiritually mature and hence have studied Crowley and have his deck
Of cards! It was merely a surprised observation!
Joya Sarkar
When you are intellectually and spiritually mature you can read anything and find the Truth in it. At the top of the mountain all contradictions melt and become one.
Sonny Thomas
Evil and devil spelled backwards are live and lived. I enjoy living...
Joya Sarkar
The church has condemned physical love. It can be a path to growth. Suppression can be harmful. The devil is the nature god, the green man.
Joya Sarkar
Thought is not creative. Love is the only factor which is creative.Krishnamurti
Joya Sarkar
Now, is it possible not to be hurt at all? Because the consequences of being hurt are the building of a wall around oneself, withdrawing in one's relationship with others in order not to be hurt more....View More
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Joya Sarkar
The armour we wear to protect ourselves from the world is layers upon layers of fear and ego. When we drop our armour our fears are not realized. Life begins to penetrate us and all our wounds and fears surface for healing.
Joya Sarkar
To run away from fear is to increase it - to resist it, to suppress it, avoid it, deny it, judge it, it persists.The Wisdom of No Escape is a book by Pema Chodron
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Joya Sarkar
Just watch it and feel it, that is the way to go beyond it
Joya Sarkar
Simple, ordinary compassion tends to depend on how the persons concerned think about us. It doesnt extend to our enemies. Trained compassion, on the other hand, can extend to all beings, even those ...View More
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Joya Sarkar
The word 'innocence' means a mind that is incapable of being hurt.Jiddu Krishnamurti
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Ted Hale
That is a change in perspective on innocence. From an intellectual perspective it seems inaccurate but from a spiritual perspective it is true <3
Joya Sarkar
It is only the ego that can be hurt. The ego is temporary and hence insubstantial and is afraid of death. The death of the ego is the end of suffering. When we are empty are minds are filled with silence and stillness that is unmoved by externals and undisturbed by the past and future.
Joya Sarkar
Without freedom from the past, there is no freedom at all...Jiddu Krishnamurti
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Joya Sarkar
It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.Jiddu Krishnamurti
Joya Sarkar
Leap and the net will appear.Zen saying
Passer by
Joya ..and many more happier returns of the day
Joya Sarkar
How kind. Thank you.
Sarayai
Many Blessings and Much LOVE on your Birth Day...Namaste....
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Joya Sarkar
How kind. Thank you for the birthday wishes. Love and Light to you.
Alfred Miller
Joya Dear Soul!
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Joya Sarkar
Thank you. Sending you much Love.
Jaana from Finland
Just heared on the wireless....1 red rose means 'you are my only one'.
bozena perich
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!
Majid Etemad
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Majid Etemad
[x=184959]Joya Sarkar[/x] Happy birthday lovely soul friend. Heaps of love.
<3
Joya Sarkar
Thank you and warm wishes to you. My birthday is Valentines Day. It always impressed the postman. It must have seemed as though I had lots of admirers.
Joya Sarkar
How beautiful it is to do nothing and then to rest afterwards.Spanish proverb
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Gerry
<3 <3
Christian Wiese
Yes beautiful but also so foreign to me personally ... I was raised by the German Proverb "Work first, pleasure afterwards" or "work is work, and schnapps is schnapps" ... hope I can find a balance somewhere between the two cultures <3
Joya Sarkar
I too was brought up to be driven. To be made guilty if I watched tv. To always be doing something productive. It took a lot of deep work to see that it is not just beautiful, but essential to do nothing. To drop doing is the whole art of spirituality. To be just the watcher. The only thing no...View More
Joya Sarkar
The heart knows nothing of the past, nothing of the future; it knows only of the present.Osho
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Jaana from Finland
Zen
Joya Sarkar
It is the privilege of the forgiven to forgiveACIM
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Joya Sarkar
Life is possible only through challenges. Life is possible only when you have both good weather and bad weather, when you have both pleasure and pain, when you have both winter and summer, day and nig...View More
Joya Sarkar
To live in relationship and yet remain independent, that is what courage is.OshoFirst there is dependency or co-dependency. Then as we mature there is independence. The final stage is interdependenc...View More
rylan
as long as we remain in a single pole based awareness, this will be the best we can do...
Joya Sarkar
God is just a pure witness. He doesnt judge our deeds right or wrong. He doesnt measure the size of our good deeds, whether they are great or small. We are our own lawyer. In contemplation we lear...View More
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Joya Sarkar
The moment we judge our thoughts, we have lost the pure witness. To know the watcher is to know God
Joya Sarkar
It is our own minds, which bind us or liberates us, and the law of karma, which is a natural law.
Joya Sarkar
Pleasure is a sort of oblivion, a forgetfulness. Pain is remembrance, you cannot forget pain.Osho
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rylan
pain is most direct ground of the spiritual into the physical...
pleasure is the most direct ground of the physical into the spiritual...
Joya Sarkar
My love is unconditional. Your action is irrelevant.Osho
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Joya Sarkar
Life is not a game we play with outside forces, it is a game we play with ourselves - Stuart Wilde.
Love is a Power, not just a reaction. It is without cause, without reason, without condition.
Alex Smith
thankyou
Joya Sarkar
Meditation, perhaps, is the only alchemy that can transform a beggar into an emperor.Osho
Joya Sarkar
Beware: don't choose the convenient, the comfortable, the respectable, the socially acceptable. Choose something that rings a bell in your heart.Osho
Joya Sarkar
Whatsoever you hide goes on growing, and whatsoever you expose, if it is wrong it disappears, evaporates in the sun, and if it is right it is nourished.Osho
Joya Sarkar
The technique of positive thinking is not a technique that transforms you. It is simply repressing the negative aspects of your personality. It is a method of choice. It cannot help awareness; it goes...View More
Joya Sarkar
It is one of the greatest problems. It will appear very paradoxical, but this is true - before you can lose your ego, you must attain it. Only a ripe fruit falls to the ground. Ripeness is all. An unr...View More
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Smiler
To know the Ego ..One must know their own thoughts..then it is the ability to move past Ego thoughts~ to the soul ( or higher self as some call it)
Awareness is the Key I think.
Joya Sarkar
To witness the thoughts and emotions is the way to go past or beyond the ego, to dissolve it. Awareness is the key, you are right.
Joya Sarkar
Osho says we need to live rich lives, rich in adventure, rich in knowledge, rich in experience before we can renounce. The poor man cannot renounce, because the world has renounced him.
Smiler
We are all students and masters to our own destiny's ..there is mystery in one's own self discovery and when we share ..that is exactly what we are doing..Sharing from our own experiences .. Love & Peace Joya :)
Joya Sarkar
Warm wishes and blessings.
Joya Sarkar
There is a wisdom of the head and a wisdom of the HeartCharles Dickens
Joya Sarkar
Trust is an absurd phenomenon, logically absurd. That's why logic always says love is blind, although love has its own eyes, far more deep-going...still, to logic it is blind.Osho
Vinod Verma
As I think love <3 is not blind It's actually sex coated love is blind! Love is truly love love love only surrendaring for loving one like kite to fire candle :rainbow:
Joya Sarkar
The masters say that being is not seeing. It is not knowing. We need to close both our eyes to see Love and Reality.
Joya Sarkar
The more meditation goes deep, the more you will become master of your own thoughts. You will say, "Stop!" and the mind stops. You will say, "Move!" and the mind begins to move. Once this capacity com...View More
Joya Sarkar
Mind moves horizontally, no-mind exists vertically. The moment mind ceases to function, which is the art of meditation, your consciousness becomes vertical and height and depth are yours. Deep Joy, ...View More
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Vinod Verma
:sunflower:
Joya Sarkar
Acceptance of others IS Love. Acceptance means inner detachment.
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Joya Sarkar
I love to disturb people, because only by disturbing them you can make them think. They have stopped thinking for centuries. Nobody has been there to disturb them. People have been consoling them. I a...View More
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Jaana from Finland
I give my mind to people when they ask..and that asking can be disguized.One has to know how to read
tony
No words can be heard with those not willing to hear. You can offer wisdom but that does not mean that they will embrace it. When we try to force our views and opinions on others it can be seen as us trying to domesticate them to our life choices and style. Each has their own path and each will find...View More
rylan
seems to me we are discussing which side of a false duality is more righteous...
we are a balance of breathing in struggle and breathing out acceptance, so agree, to disturbed others gifts them that struggle, but it needs to be done with love...
being driven to do it because you love to, seems lower...View More
Joya Sarkar
I dont think being a bully is what is meant. I think correct weapons need to be used sparingly. I like what @Rylan said about which side of a false duality is more righteous. The Dalai Lama also says that our friends are really our enemies and our enemies are really our friends. People who push ...View More
Joya Sarkar
We need both darkness and light in order to balance the two. The masters say that darkness is the basis of the light and is the real light. Positive thinking is not the highest strategy. When we go through the Dark Night of the Soul all the wounds and fears surface for healing. This is the oppos...View More
BigPicture Questions
Osho said consolations are criminal? That's a bit harsh. There are times when consolation is needed, and other times when arousing or agitating may be in order. We need to know the difference within ourselves and others.
Joya Sarkar
Yes, we need sensitivity and detachment. We must never act from emotions.
Joya Sarkar
There are times when consolations are in order, yes, but life is harsh and we have to decide whether to indulge the lower or pity the higher. When we are gentle with the ego, we are callous to the soul. There is the higher non-violence and the lower non-violence. The lower non-violence pities the...View More
Joya Sarkar
Only when we have attained lasting peace are we fit to judge true values and fit to wield the sword.
BigPicture Questions
The Law of Attraction is based on emotions. We use our emotions as the fuel to attract the experiences that our mental bodies want. Another way to say it is thought creates form and emotions drive it into being. That's how 3D manifestation works.
Joya Sarkar
Emotions are the second chakra. If energy is not going out on this level, ie emotional ups and downs, then it can rise up the spine and reach the Heart and awaken the Soul. Emotional detachment means you are not giving away your power on the level of emotions. You still have feelings, but these a...View More
Ted Hale
Sounds like you bring up the darkness to get people to be aware of it instead of bringing it up to hurt them. Then the darkness can be acknowledged in the same way light is acknowledged. By balancing light and dark one does not act without awareness which always ends up hurting others regardless o...View More
Jaana from Finland
Not everybodys program is to be 'enlightened' in their incarnations.We have such variable goals here.Thats why we who know better...must have empathy and concideration in our acts and words.
And as always,,,own example is the best way to teach.Live as you teach...not that easy
Joya Sarkar
The more we raise our vibrations and silence the mind and emotions, the more magnetic we are.
Jaana from Finland
Yes, to those who want that kind of thing/energy.
Joya Sarkar
I think you need to be very intimate with the dark night of the soul and know all the twists and turns of the path. The path to the light passes through all aspects of darkness. We need to help people to honour the dark and not see it as an enemy, but as the great awakener and the great liberator ...View More
Joya Sarkar
The masters say you cant grow without opposition, because opposition demands unconditional qualities of unconditional love, detachment, non resistance. These qualities grow in opposition.
Jaana from Finland
Yes, life gives us them to learn from them.There is no need to activly do anything to anyone...but good an dloving things.They have their own darknessess to deal with allready
BigPicture Questions
Earth is known as the planet of emotions, where we can experience the highest highs and the lowest lows. We are here to feel the emotions but without a story, so we can untangle the emotional and mental bodies. We have to be fully present in the body, and feel the pain, guilt, fear, whatever shadow ...View More
Joya Sarkar
It is a bit like homeopathy or vaccinations, a little poison diluted, stimulates the body to fight against the illness. You need sensitivity to see when the negative is timely and when it is timely to use the positive. Both are equal sides of the same coin. But you first have to know the value of...View More
Joya Sarkar
The feminine is more powerful than the masculine, the soft is more powerful than the hard, the water is more powerful than the rock.Osho
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Vinod Verma
So true and wonderful message... also read many books of Osho as i remember when i was teenage then i went a book fair from where i broght many books at a time and felt to read really so wonderful his message In a very heart touching ways :sunflower:
rylan
agree in that cooperation is more powerful than co